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Brenda Marie (Malone) Mateer

November 25, 1960 ~ June 24, 2021 (age 60)

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Brenda Marie Mateer, age 60, died June 24, 2021 at Iowa Lutheran Hospital in Des Moines.

Visitation 4 to 7 p.m. Tuesday, June 29th at O'Leary Funeral Services in Norwalk with a Celebration of Life Service 11 a.m. Wednesday, June 30th at the Norwalk United Methodist Church.
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The life story of Brenda is one that includes lots of laughter, selflessness, and positivity.  During her childhood she was described by her parents as being an easy child to raise and responsible.  She was compassionate at an early age, taking the blame for any issues to protect everyone else. Brenda was very passionate about sports and her athletic ability led her to continuing her love of sports when she attended Simpson College.  It was there that she earned All American honors and created many memories.  On campus Brenda was an easy person to get along with, whether it was her incredibly positive personality or being known as the student that got her car stuck while trying to drive onto the college football field.  It was because of her positivity that she developed lifelong friendships during her time at Simpson.  One of those important friendships was with a very special “person” that went everywhere with her and his name was Dooley, a doll that was made and gifted to her by her Aunt Lavona.  He was there for her for many years, until finally being replaced by her true love, Randy. 

Brenda and Randy met at a slow pitch softball tournament in 1988.  Just two short years later they solidified their commitment to one another in front of all their friends and family. 

Brenda and Randy didn’t wait long there after to start a family of their own.  Being a mom was Brenda’s most prized accomplishment and she was incredible at filling that role. 

 Sports were a very big aspect of the family's lives  Although they never sat with one another, due to different levels of involvement from the stands, Brenda and Randy were always present to support their kids. She emphasized the importance of always giving your best effort, following through with your commitments, and most importantly being a good person.

Brenda held true to these values even after being diagnosed with Primary Progressive Aphasia (PPA) in 2012.  As the disease progressed she continued to be a light in everyone’s lives.  Someone who was once so verbal in the way she perceived life was now teaching more through her actions.  There wasn’t a conversation that didn’t begin and end with her contagious laugh and smile.  In her remaining years she gained a true appreciation for the small things in life. Whether it be listening to her “Oldies” music, long car rides with Randy just to explore the roads less travelled or simply looking outside watching the birds and squirrels, she was always smiling.

Brenda’s footprint in this world is large and she would want to remind everyone to...

"Enjoy the Journey."





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June 29, 2021

4:00 PM to 7:00 PM
O'Leary Funeral & Cremation Services
1020 Main Street
Norwalk, IA 50205

Celebration of Life
June 30, 2021

11:00 AM
Norwalk United Methodist Church
1801 Sunset Drive
Norwalk, Iowa 50211

Funeral Luncheon
June 30, 2021

12:00 PM
Norwalk United Methodist Church
1801 Sunset Drive
Norwalk, Iowa 50211

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